Buying gifts for people who aren’t in your inner circle (in-laws, cousins you only see at weddings, or your sibling’s new fiancé) can feel tricky. You want to be thoughtful, but not too intimate. Nice, but not “I spent a month planning this.” The goal? A gift that lands somewhere between “generic” and “too deep.” Here’s how to find that sweet spot.
Start with What You Know
First things first: don’t stress about knowing every detail of their life. You’re not writing a memoir; you’re just getting a gift and so start with what you do know. Do they love wine? Are they into skincare? Do they host a lot? Even basic information like “they work from home” or “they have kids” can help guide your pick.
If you’re totally blank, do some light investigating. Ask someone close to them, scroll through their Instagram, or pay attention to how they spend their time. Then lean into safe categories like food, books, cozy things, or home decor. Remember, you’re aiming for thoughtful and chill, not a grand romantic gesture.
Think ‘Useful and Universal’ Instead of Unique
When in doubt, choose something practical. Think elevated everyday items. A good coffee set, an elegant candle, or a cute throw blanket can go a long way. These gifts say, “I see you,” without screaming, “I freaked out in the gift aisle.”
For example, accent chairs are a good idea here. They’re a perfect example of a home gift that’s both stylish and functional. If you know they’re furnishing a space or love decorating, a well-chosen accent chair can feel like a big win. Go for neutral tones or trendy but subtle designs. Just make sure it matches their vibe (or is easy to return).
Other safe bets include kitchen upgrades (like a pretty oil dispenser), bath goodies, or even a well-designed planner. Avoid risky personal items like perfume or anything too specific unless you’re 100% sure.
Presentation Counts
Really, you don’t have to wrap gifts like an influencer with a craft room. But putting in a bit of effort does matter. A simple gift bag, clean tissue paper, and a nice tag or card can make even a small gift feel more special.
And don’t underestimate the power of a short note. Even a quick “Hope you enjoy this little something!” adds warmth. If you’re giving the gift in person, a casual, “Thought you might like this” is perfect. You’re not giving a speech, just showing a bit of care.
Buying gifts for external family could be simple. Stick with useful, well-chosen items that feel thoughtful without trying too hard. Whether it’s a cozy throw, a classy accent chair, or a great box of tea, what matters is the gesture. In the end, people remember the effort and the vibe.
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